Compassion is an essential human value that leads to undying and true happiness in your life. It is that one core element that makes a profound impact on your personality and casts a deep impression on your soul.
While compassion, by definition, may mean to feel the pain of others, sympathise or empathise with them, it is often misunderstood as sympathising with another person in their misery. What one needs to understand is that compassion does not mean we create more sorrow out of the suffering already undertaken by another person. It really doesn’t help anyone.
Accept people as they are. In its true sense, compassion is an expression that helps us to accept people as they are. It means being tolerant, patient and acknowledge the situation the way it is, and moving ahead to make changes. In doing so, you can avoid personal reactions–which are most often emotional, that create distress, misery and grief. Compassion requires understanding of another person’s situation and not being judgmental either about that person or his situation.
Make your presence felt. Being compassionate might even mean to be a silent supporter for the person in their times of need. You might not want to speak or talk about the suffering at all. Just making your presence felt in that situation boosts the morale and confidence of another person. Try changing the emotion of that person, or divert their mind from suffering. It would help them in taking stock of the situation and moving ahead in life. Empathising is equally important. Empower the person with hope for the future and assure him of his own abilities.
Listen more, talk less. An essential part of being compassionate is to listen to the misery of another person and help them in relieving their emotional and mental stress. If you are not judgmental or do not give your opinion in certain situations, the person would connect with you and talk openly about their issues. Bring that change for the person, be an active listener and a passive talker.
Be compassionate to yourself. However, remember you cannot practice compassion unless you are compassionate with yourself. It is difficult to motivate someone emotionally if you are standing at a lower podium than the other person. You must be at peace with your own inner self, be kind and non-judgmental towards yourself. Let go-off the guilt, the feelings of inadequacy, and believe that your happiness lies within you.
As everything in the universe is linked with each other, your positive action for someone else would invariably bring positivity and happiness in your life too.
Be compassionate. Make this world a better place.
About the author: A compulsive writer, a mad thinker, a marooned traveller, and an accidental photographer, Asha Dey is also the Senior Editor of WisdomWinds. Follow her on Twitter @deyasha18.
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